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Helping Your Ever-crying Child

Helping your ever-crying child.

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oes your kid seem to cry over every single little incident? As much as this may seem like quite an obvious question, it isn’t. It may occur to most adults that a kid crying is normal. However, contrary to this, weeping may exhibit predictable behaviors. There are kids that would cry when their food is eaten by their friends while there are those that won’t seem to feel a thing. There are those that don’t mind being left among strangers by their parents while there are those that will break down in to wails immediately their parents leave them even with other relatives.

The above examples set a perfect start to the discussion about just how much sensitive your kid is and how this affects them. Kids who are extra sensitive will tend to react negatively and express deep emotions whenever what they expected is not met. The only way they could express such emotions is by shedding tears. A psychology professor in Marist College attests to this but insists on the benefits that comes with having such kids. She says that while non-sensitive kids are easier to handle, sensitive ones have a better heart and are likely to grow to become creative and gentle. The kids’ specialist then states that it is possible for one to teach their kids how to control their emotions. 

It has been proven that it is the genetic composition of a kid that determines their level of sensitivity in the spectrum. Even Borba Michele, a renowned author, states in one off her books that it is almost impossible for a child to stop expressing her emotions in the form of tears whenever the urge arises. This can be compared to how one can’t stop their head from becoming bald. It is simply ingrained in the gene. It is for this reason that a number of kids who cry just after there are conceived will carry on the habit of crying over small things until they are quite older. Crying just after birth is however not a sensitivity issue as it is causes by changes in the kid’s surrounding and the noises that they hear. The fact that sensitive kids end up being gentle and tend to care more when older is key and this is why top professionals suggest that parents should avoid criticizing the kid but rather embrace their nature and try to guide them through. 

Just how should you go about handling the kid? Say you are in in the swimming pool and all kids seem to have blue floaters. Apparently it was the theme color of the pool party but you seem to have missed that part and bought your kid a yellow floater and for this reason, the kid weeps. Your first option and instinct would tell you to go and get another floater and this time get the color right. Professionals however suggest that this is not the right reaction. According to them, doing this will take away their ability to make crucial decisions and will in turn damage their self-esteem. It is a normal feeling to tell her to stop crying but you should also avoid this as it may end up not going your way. 

From an expert point of view, such kind of children have a huge emotional connection to their parents and feel your emotions. In such a case, you should therefore act tense. She will definitely read this and stop crying as she will feel that her actions are getting you upset. This will go a long way in changing the behavior you don’t like. You can playfully ask them to freeze or try engaging them in a game they love to play. This will divert their attention away from the situation that seems to distract them. 

Various children professionals suggest that the technique of trying to divert your kid’s attention to something different works reliably. An example of such a technique is asking a crying kid to recite the alphabet. You can even challenge them to recite it backwards if they have mastered the alphabet well. This technique may seem simple but actually works. The child will probably be smiling by the time she is done. To experts, it is amazing how distracting a sensitive kid could guide them. 

Experts have also reached a unanimous agreement concerning why distractions seem to solve most problems in sensitive kids. Children normally has difficulties counting natural numbers and they will need to concentrate to do this. This means that by the time they finish counting up to 10, they would have forgotten what was making them sad. They however state that it shouldn’t just stop at this. The next step is to ask the kid what is making her sad. After she answers, challenge her to make a decision by asking her what she can do to make herself feel better. She may or may not answer this. If she doesn’t answer, you could give her suggestions depending on what you think she likes to do, like inviting her friends over or reading a book. This will go a long way in helping her practice to make her own decisions. 

The author of No-Cry series parenting books, Elizabeth Pantley, explains that crying is not limited to sensitive children. According to her, even less teary kids have those periods in which they become emotional. These periods are caused mainly by changes such as when a new baby is born. They then become irritable and may start having irregular sleeping patterns and poor eating habits. For such cases, Pantley highly recommends that you visit your pediatrician as they may 

Peer pressure can also positively influence your child and help them deal with their sensitivity issues. At around age 7, the kid will control herself when among her friends. The level of sensitivity may note depreciate but the self-control increases. Other factors such as the kid’s interest can also help. A kid who loves to draw or maybe sing would stop crying if she gets the chance to draw or play the piano.